Are you ready to give up? Are you just done trying? Ready to ask for the Divorce and call it quits. Does he or she even know you are so unhappy?
People think that we can trade up for something better; well at what point in life does your trade in value start going down?
So many people are giving up on marriage right now. They think that it will solve the problems in there lives when most of the time it is just going to add so many more to it.
Did you know that people who are divorced have less money overall. Think about it; you are now trying to support your home and your children, if you have any in another home also, there goes half your income! What kind of place can you live in on half of your income?
So, I am just going on the fact that there are kids involved because most divorces do involve kids. Now there is the fight over where they live and when they visit. You can say you will get along and make it work out, but it won’t! Simple fact; if you can’t make it work now when you say you love each other how are you going to make it work when you each are a pain in the a**. Add to the fact one day the kids are going to have a plan on where they want to go and you won’t like it.
You think there is someone out there that will make you happy! What makes you think that it is someone else’s job to do that? If you can’t find happiness where you are, what makes you think you will find it with someone else, for more than a short time too.
Marriage takes work, hard work and is not always fun. There are times that you feel you are not loved and that you are just a roommate. There are times that you want to give up but if you do, the problems you make are just all that much more.
Don’t get me wrong I know there are times that divorce is the only way out for some people to be safe. I agree with that, but if you are running just because you are unhappy you need to look at yourself and pray.
I have been divorced before, 29 years ago I had to give up, and he cheated on me and hit me. At twenty years old I still felt like it was my fault for many years. I got pregnant at 16 and married four days after my 17 birthday, we didn’t have a clue what we were doing and didn’t even try to make it work. He also has only seen his son twice in all of these years. I think that speaks to the kind of person that he is and sometime it is okay to walk away.
It also takes two willing parties to make things better, and that means you have to talk about it, or at least be willing to give it a try. People are giving up to easy, thinking it will be better and it isn’t. I almost gave up again last year, but you will have to come back to find out about that story.